What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions. (James 4:1-3)
Yesterday, I spent a lot of time talking with my cousin about some family issues we have been having. It is sad to see how our family has been divided over conflicts. My girlfriend and I were also talking about arguing and how we wanted to avoid conflict. We shouldn’t ignore conflict, but we also should not seek conflict. In both of these scenarios, the best way to reach a resolution is to have selfless love for each other. Arguments start when we are selfish and want something from someone else. Often we look for things from other people that only God can provide. Father, thank you that you are faithful to provide everything that I need when I ask you. Help me to run to you when I am in need instead of looking to other people. Please give me selfless love for others.